Well said Statement by My Wife "One Lie Can End Million Trust!"

On 11/12/2025, For the first time after 4 years. My wife and my son left me behind and went back to hometown by bus for the long weekend holiday. The day before on 10/12/2025, I had a dream while I'm having my evening nap. I Dreamed they are leaving me and go somewhere else, I said goodbye hugged Viian tight and Cried. My eyes was wet with tears when I woke up, I sat up from the bed and recall my dreams. And I told myself it was just a dream, didn't thought it was really happens on the next day. 

Things happens like this, Since last week my wife says there is a long holiday next week attached with the Public holiday. She said thought of going back hometown or take rest at home since we just back from Sabah last week, I said it's up to you. If you want to go back then we go back, if you want to rest then we enjoy at home relax chilling eating. Then there no conversation happens after that about the long weekend holiday. For me is simple, earlier plan pack and move. 

Until the day before, the evening that I dream. My wife said let go back hometown, her father was begging her to come back, her mum was asking "are you coming home tomorrow". I told my wife I have event's coming up on the weekend that I promised and planned day before while you was silent since that day, I working for the night shift. And you was not planning this together since until today and in sudden says want to go back hometown. I'm actually a very easy going person, you tell me the plan earlier I will arrange. I don't do last minute and decline my events. I told my wife so many F times "don't do last minute" but she still stubborn and still doing it. 

Story cut short, this time no arguments no look back. Early morning my wife decided packs her and my son stuff into luggage, took grab to bus station and balik kampung. Without asking me to follow or at least sent them to bus station. 

Having a plans is alway better for everyone or else Will be more worst effect to the family! 

Being Childish will hurt yourself!

On 28/07/2025, Things back to as usual. Still Feeling dissatisfied, even when things seem good on the surface. Myself still can't move on, I less laughing. Conversation cut short as before this always have questions and my face looks serious all the time and I realize that I didn't drop any tears during the argument, I have no more tears to shed!

Today might be the closing of the topic "DIVORCE" since our marriage will go on, My son get to be back into a normal family avoided to be break and become a broken family kid. Every words my wife told on 25/07/2025 will forever in my mind!!

To know more about the story, Read till end of the article. Thank You

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On 26/07/2025 around 11am, I was half sleep half awake and trying to continue to sleep. Suddenly my ex-wife hug me the back on the bed, I thought it was my son. I turn my head and shock then lay back on the bed. For Some times, I asked my ex-wife "WHAT YOU WANT NOW" !!. she silent and I asked again!, she says that her mum warn her "Don't come back to my house without your husband". then I said "then don't go back la, faster find place to rent and just move out then. what to do me and your mum, I don't even care". Because of her family so call very traditional sangat type, afraid to shame among friends and relative. Actually myself don't give A F**k also, mine is broken family. My family also don't mind, they are open minded and not a traditional parents. That's why I dare to accept my ex-wife " Divorce " without thinking twice, In my mind is all about Viian Only. I'm trying my best to maintain this family to avoid break because I'm really doesn't wanted what happens to me when I'm just a kid, I saw myself through Viian eyes. I'm looking at Viian eyes and telling him " what happens to me will happen to you " my son.

We went out for Lunch together because the mother ask the son come to tell me "let go out eat papa", I don't even look at her. and I asked in car "ARE YOU HAVING A SHORT TERM MEMORY LOST"?!!, not even 24 hours you can wipe all the rudeness and disrespect of yours to me and that is impressive!!

On the evening, and again I school her about more than an hour. Please to be common sense, I told her so many things. To be honest, at the end I'm still not happy. I asked for an apologies in the end and she reply "only you say apologies first for your lies then only I will apology for what I said". Then I said 
" It's okay, keep yourself the apologies for me and my bestie"since very hard for you to say and you still think you at the victim side. Really still stubborn, brainless and don't feel wrong!!

My wife trying to persuade me to get back together by talking and show some guilty 20 cent drama face, I can forgive but not until I get the apologies and really hard to digest how she bark at me yesterday!!

To all my reader, what can I say today is. Everything will be different between me and my wife, the care will be less, The Love will be more less since you say I gave you less love since day one so it will more less lo. eye contact will be less and conversation will be less too. Sorry to say that from bottom of my heart to my wife, I'm still "HURT, SAD & ANGRY" by the word DIVORCE you rise up. And a simple APOLOGIES word that I request been reject, you always not willing to apologies when you cari pasal with me. Your EGO is so high!!!

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On 25/07/2025 around 12pm, My wife up her voice and straight into my face and say " I Want to DIVORCE YOU, because you lied to me " !! here the word comes out continue from my wife :

• I want to DIVORCE you!, don't worry I will pay!
• I'm REGRET for marrying you!
• your family was a BROKEN family, you are BROKEN too!
• I will take full CUSTODY on the son!
• After DIVORCE, go find other GIRL to have kids!
• I will MOVE OUT from here!
• take my name out from this PROPERTY!
• your DAD also useless one, here there find girls!
• your mum also one don't really care her grandson!

Her rude words and disrespect on my friends and Family really cross my border line, and I shout back with :

• You the one who first say the word "DIVORCE", don't your family teach you to use that word or when to use that word?! Does your friend ever told you how to use that word?!. Owh ya i forget, you don't much friend and very bad in social, you doesn't like anyone accept you mum and 2 or 3 little cat friend that doesn't much come to you. Do you know how sensitive is that word?!. Alright, Let's DIVORCE!!. you find your lawyer, you pay everything to your lawyer. get me the paper to sign and I want half custody for the son!!.
• aahh! REGRETTED married to me!!. that's great, I want you to REGRET until you die!!.
• yes you're correct ! I'm from a broken family. I'm proud to be a broken kid, Independent Since I was 7 years old. gets respects from my circle and what I'm today, I seen the world. YOU! you have perfect family! yes you family not broken but you family are stupid! everyone hiding under your mum armpit and still drinking milk from the breast! all coward as hell! how to compare, far way different! I have promise myself not to break my family to a broken like what my parent did and congrat, you just destroy my promise, thank you!!
• After DIVORCE, please mind your own business!! That's why I say you brainless, you think all the girl out there will simply open their leg and let me FUCK?!. and you think I will simple open my pant and simple FUCK?!. use you BRAIN please, everyone have their dignity. your stupid brain and mouth can't connect properly?! common sense please, Don't go out there and talk like this. The whole world will laugh at you, shame on you!
• I will take the full custody, you know how to take care a kid?! you don't even know how to make your son sleep, you don't even bring him for outdoor activity and much more yourself know la. Don't Worry, I won't hire a lawyer to fight custody because I'm poor. How ever also the judge will give the custody to mother and how ever also I want half custody! I TELL you, if Viian grown up he will know who spent the most time with him. talk la, why QUITE!
• Finding others women to have kids if none of your business after DIVORCE, Is my problem to search or not to search. No need to do my future planning for me, mind your own business! Go back to your mum armpit and tell the truth story, don't do those indian drama play victim?!. Prepare how to face your stupid family, long distance bestie friends that don't even celebrate your birthday or find you for gathering and those punya la traditional sangat relatives!
• You better move out before your lawyer speak!. 
• Don't worry, I for sure will sell the property because I'm the one paying monthly!
• That is my DAD, they are DIVORCE long time ago. he can do what he like, none of you business too! my family didn't harm you and your family, what is you problem!
• My MUM not really care Viian is her own problem la!, Why I need others people to care my son. I didn't enough care!! I take care my son enough la. your mum so caring also because my son is the only one grandson with blood relation!!

I shoot back with common sense and my wife was speechless all the time and you are lucky because you are still siting there and barking. you must thanks to your son because he was there, if not you cannot see the world again!!  YOU DISRESPECT MY FAMILY AND FRIEND!!

LASTLY, you agreed for half custody because you know you don't really know how to manage Viian. You will move out and rent around the same place for your work sake and take turn look after Viian, I thought she will straight away pack things up and go Back to her mum armpit. And I won't like to keep on repeating the common sense while you keep on forgetting what I saying since you say out the word "DIVORCE". On that day, my brain is blank with only 3 words "HURT, SAD & ANGRY".

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I agree what my wife wrote "One Lie Can End Million Trust!" on 24/07/2025 statement, and what you need to know is there are also have "millions of kind of lies" to avoid complicated thing happens. This will be my simple reply for the statement, I don't need a million trust if there is no trust been given, I don't even need two. We must understand what kind lies are not to be forgiven and which kind of lies are acceptable to avoid misunderstanding happens, might not everyone agree with me but i'm sure with wider mindset person like me will understand the story!

I not sure when and where to start, Let me write down what is running in my mind at the moment. In the end will becoming a story. Before start, I would like to say sorry if my grammar makes you confuse but  for sure you all understand. I'm not a high educated person but my knowlegde to live and know how to  respect others. And again sorry to say those highly educated people thought their are very clever but not smart!

In a relationship, as a loving couple or married couple. What is the most important topic to sustain the relationship until end of your life? 

First of all is " Trust ", What makes you lost of " Trust " ?

• Been betrayed by partner having another relationship
• Drug Addicted
• Lies, what kind of lies?

For sure everyone knows all this nonsense, yes this is not a fresh or exited topic. I'm just want to describe what is running in brain to start the story.

When someone can't move on and still look back, what will happen?

He/she even still stalk his/her EXes/Admires/Pursuers lifestyle till today, keep updating himself/herself by quietly. Is all that necessary after he/she married to someone who love him/her? 

At the same time stalk all his/her behalf social media platform massages quietly, even note down few suspected fishy conversation that happens before the marriage. Is all that necessary to bring the past tense to your future as argument?

 

And again to be mention, Any past conversation or relationship is not a topic to be story telling. To be honest it was uncomfortable to be remind, for me past is past. we are in a new chapter of life in couple or marriage life. why don't we just focus on the future or if there is a betray happens on any of us then only we speak about disappointed trust. 

Do you Understand what is friends, best friend, old friend or EXes Mean?

I think he/she doesn't really Understand what all that mean, all that was misunderstanded as a same category. Can't differentiate because he/she doesn't have so many friends and anti social, doesn't know how the world look like or how the world works.

How many of you still keep in touch with your EXes after a new relationship or marriage?

Will you Invite your EXes to your any parties, Weddings ?
To be honest, I won't ! I hate them as hell. So how come EXes can be best friend or old friend. It works for some people but not for me, even though he/she explained but still she/he doesn't understand!

But I found out he/she still massaging the EX just after our marriage even though they broke up few years ago and I still choose to trust, I decided not to confront her/he and I choose to believe her/he. Continue our newly marriage chapter welcoming our prince to be born. 

Why I say lies?

Lies started to fling into some of our conversation because of she/he doesn't know how to respect my friends and family!!

I believe he/she having this kind of bad manners of respecting people is lack of lessons from the parents itself, their parent doesn't know how to show a good example to their highly educate children. You earn respects by how you respects others, you can't buy it. people can feel how true you are by faking your behaviour. Slowly I can see how is your attitude, from labelling yourself innocent play victim. 

I started to feel weird how he/she treat my friends, not evenly good to some and good to some. the way how she/he look, talk and chat with my friends. The friendship between me and them are more than 10 years, gonna 2 decades soon.